Friday, May 20, 2016

On Being Twenty Nine

So, like any girl who is approaching her thirties with a mixture of excitement and pure fear, I like to play around with different things that keep me feeling like the spry, cute, little bouncy 21 year old I once was. So, you might catch me rocking out to Bieber with my sunroof open, trying to squeeze my body into tight crop tops that I swear are only made for pre-pubescent 14 year old girls (but what the hell, a girl’s gotta try anyway) and constantly going back and forth between all different types of makeups, wrinkle preventers, haircuts, work out regiments, detox teas, and more. PS. The Smashbox X-Rated mascara is to die for. Go buy it now. Your lashes will soon resemble Kim K's and you'll feel like a legit rock star all day long. 

In saying that, a lot of the time you’ll find me acting like the intelligent, hard-working, dress-like-I’m-almost-in-my-thirties 29 year old full time working, 401k paying-into, bills-up-the-ass, legal assistant that I am.  Thus, you might find me wearing a button up blouse while shedding a tear over a Simon and Garfunkel lyric, making constant To-Do lists, and organizing all the god damn medicine I’m on to keep my heartburn (yes, heartburn isn’t just for the elderly and overweight people) under control.  You’ll also find me staying in on a Friday night watching Netflix instead of getting blackout drunk and forgetting how I got home. You’ll notice I made the switch from real tanning to spray tanning as to preserve my youthful skin.  I’ve also been known to have a full blown conversation with my cat about whether she’s voting for Trump or Hillary. Those conversations happen in private though, so I guess the chances of catchinig those ones are slim.

So what I’m trying to say is, it’s a really hard thought to grasp – moving from being the age that EVERYONE wants to be and EVERYONE wants YOU to be, to the scary dark world of your thirties. There are so many things I wanted to have accomplished by now, but there are also so many things I have accomplished that I never thought I could.  And, I’ve learned so much through this process - one important lesson being that it’s better to have a few real friends you can vent and grow with than to have a bunch of girls you can go to the bar and talk shit with about people you don’t even know.  I’ve also learned that spending time with my parents is some of the best time I spend.  I find myself growing to be more like my beautiful mother, and I’m happy about that.  I’ve found that nights in on the couch laughing over stupid inside jokes with my boyfriend mean so much more to me than wearing 8 pounds of eyeliner and trying to look hot for the next guy who just wants to break my heart.  So all in all, I’ve learned that I’m a pretty damn lucky 29 but almost 30 year old.

So for now, I’ll hold onto the two – the life I live now and the live that awaits me, and in doing so, you may definitely still see me rocking out to the Biebs and T. Swift in my brand new Jeep, while wearing a dark shade of office appropriate lipstick, with perfectly highlighted hair and expensively manicured nails, looking like a maniac because I’m trying to simultaneously take a selfie while thinking about how I can cook a clean organic dinner and still make it to bed by 9pm and wake up the next day to start day-drinking at noon.


With that being said, life in your late twenties can be so confusing, man.  Who’s with me?

Friday, May 13, 2016

Today I Believe...



Today I believe:

- That it's okay to get overwhelmed sometimes.  Life can throw a lot at you, and when it rains, it sure as hell usually pours.  But this makes you come out stronger, wiser, and better in the end.  Believe me.

- That it's so important to thank the people who are always by your side.  When people sacrifice doing something for themselves to be next to you, that's when you know you've got someone special in your life.  Make sure to thank them.

- That being alone sometimes is okay.  It's important to work on your relationship with yourself and learning how to be okay in situations you typically wouldn't be.  It's healthy to try to let go of the anxiety and concentrate on yourself.  Treat yourself to a night in while everyone else is out. Take care of your own mind and body first.  You are number 1.

- That if you work really hard at something you really want, chances are you might get it.  If you don't, something else more radiant and breathtaking may come along, and you'll understand why the first goal didn't work out as planned.  

- That you need to TRUST people.  Stop being like me and thinking everything is a scam.  Have a little more faith in people. 

- That spring is the most beautiful season. Everyone is happier when the sun is shining and flowers are in bloom.  It's the best precursor to everyone's favorite season, and there's something to be said about the smell of the pavement after an April shower.  

- That things just happen as you get older.  I am no longer the person I was in my early 20's, and I am thankful for that. 

- That it's really great to always have something to look forward to.  It makes each morning a little bit sweeter when you can count down the days until your next exciting adventure. 

- That the people reading this blog are my favorite people in the world.  I can't even believe you take the time out of your day to read my thoughts.  I really hope I can inspire some of you.

- That it's important to pick a certain small time slot in the day to worry.  Have your worries, have your tears, feel the stress, and then be done with it.  Don't let yourself worry about the same thing all day.  You'll thank me for this one.

and finally, today I truly believe:

- That sometimes, maybe all the time, we just need to let go and let God.