Monday, January 21, 2013

The Interpretation of a Quote & Finding What Makes You Happy


“Saying YES to happiness means learning to say NO to things and people that stress you out.”

–Thema Davis

      Not only are these words brilliant, but they are a perfect collaboration of what I need to do, and what I’ve been slightly too afraid to do. You know, sometimes it’s really hard to put your foot down and demand respect or cut ties with someone who isn’t helping you grow. Oftentimes, people like me tend to put the needs of others in the way of their own, simply because it’s easier to please the world than it is to please ourselves.  This is why, after long nights of anxiety ridden restless sleep and listening to the wise words of people who love me, I’ve decided to dedicate 2013 to focusing on my own happiness.

     I’m often told that I have to stop stressing about him/her- that this is my life, so to stop worrying if everyone else is happy, and focus on myself, and worry about my own happiness, and, and, and…. these words truly hit home.

     Happiness can mean something different to each individual person. For me, happiness means something fairly personal. When I’m truly happy, I’m healthy in all aspects of my life. I’m eating right all the time, working out a lot, not drinking much alcohol, getting at least 8-9 hours of sleep each night, writing poetry, helping animals, and being around people and places that inspire me. My happiness means taking care of myself, and not bringing everyone else’s stress and drama home with me. It means being a good friend to people who are good friends in return. It means giving the best advice I can, but learning to stop when it’s not appreciated. It means growing from my mistakes and not being so hard on myself if I don’t achieve perfection. Happiness means surrounding myself with people who honestly understand me and only want what’s best for me. It means surrounding myself with people who I only want the best for as well.

    Putting myself first doesn’t mean loving anyone else less. It just means that I’m only going to give the best of me to the people who deserve it.  It means that I’ll continue to love the people and places I love as hard as I can possibly love them, and they know I’ll never give up on them.

    So far, 2013 has yet to disappoint me, but I think it’s all give and take. You have to give in order to receive, and I’m willing to give everything I can to stay on a healthy and happy path. I’m hopeful that some of you can grow on this journey with me, learn to really love and respect yourself, follow your dreams, and make choices that may be hard, but will help create the best and happiest version yourself.

So, what makes you happy?